I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I?ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?""" They said: 'Of course.' My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
Começou antes de eu nascer. Minha mãe biológica era uma jovem e solteira estudante de faculdade, e ela decidiu me colocar para adoção. Ela achava muito fortemente que eu devia ser adotado por pessoas formadas, então tudo estava preparado pra que quando eu nascesse fosse adotado por um advogado e sua esposa. Exceto que quando eu apareci eles decidiram no último minuto que na verdade eles queriam uma garota. Então meus pais adotivos, que estavam numa lista de espera, receberam uma ligação no meio da noite perguntando: ?Nós temos um garoto ?imprevisto?; vocês o querem?? Eles disseram: ?É claro!? Minha mãe biológica mais tarde descobriu que minha mãe adotiva nunca se formou na faculdade e que meu pai adotivo nunca se formou no colégio (ensino médio). Ela se recusou a assinar os papéis finais da adoção. Ela só cedeu alguns meses depois quando meus pais adotivos prometeram que um dia eu iria para a faculdade.
Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something ? your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.